A:
\nLets face it, if you\u2019re gay, there are two things that society has heaped upon us, and they\u2019re at the start of the alphabet:<\/p>\n
AIDS: The gay disease, as it was previously known when it was first discovered. Acquired Immune Deficiency Syndrome is the final phase of HIV infection where the immune system has succumbed to the HIV virus.<\/p>\n
ANAL: In the gay world, anal is what separates the boys from the men. It\u2019s de rigueur, our rite of passage if you will (pun intended). I\u2019m not going to lie, it\u2019s going to hurt the first time (or few times), but, like plucking your eyebrows, you\u2019ll get used to it. Afterward, it\u2019s all pleasure so go out there you sodomites. Keep calm and push back.<\/p>\n
B:
\nBABY BUTCH: A masculine lesbian at a young age. Or in this case, any one half of the typical Shanghai Metro lesbian relationship.<\/p>\n
BEARS: It\u2019s no secret that I\u2019m partial to Bears. Heck, I love them. Stocky, hairy and gay. Who doesn\u2019t love a bear?<\/p>\n
BISEXUALS: Let\u2019s get something gay\u2014I don\u2019t believe in bisexuality. Sure, you can show me all the studies you want, but bisexuality is a) the easy way out for people to not admit that they\u2019re full blown gay b) it\u2019s a gateway drug to the gaydom. They just don\u2019t know it yet.<\/p>\n
C:
\nCLOSET: We all have spent our time there, some more than others. It\u2019s the place where gays are made, kinda like New York.<\/p>\n
COMING OUT: Some, like me, come out as soon as I exit my mother. Others take a little bit more time. But regardless of what you think, if you\u2019re gay, you need to come out. I dream that one day, in addition to birthdays, we get coming out parties.<\/p>\n
D:
\nDRAG QUEENS: I\u2019ve always admired drag queens. It takes skills to be a good one. It\u2019s more than just being passable for a girl as a lot of the drag acts in Shanghai seem to think.<\/p>\n
E:
\nEQUALITY: It\u2019s going to happen one day, I\u2019m sure, marriage and all that jazz. But in the meantime, can we talk about the inequality of being a gay Asian in Shanghai versus being a gay white man? It seems to me that gay white men are being held at a higher currency in the gay scene here. What is it that makes a white foreigner so much more attractive?<\/p>\n
F:
\nF*G HAG: Can we please stop calling girls who are best friends with gays that? F*g is the gay equivalent of the n-word, unless of course you\u2019re British, and you just want to bum a fag, then by all means, bum away. But back to the point, couldn\u2019t we just call girlfriends … girlfriends?<\/p>\n
G:
\nGAG REFLEX: If you hold your thumb on the inside of all your fingers and squeeze, it\u2019ll get rid of it. That\u2019s what I have been told … but what do I know, my high school nickname was Anaconda.<\/p>\n
GRINDR: A location-based hook-up app that proves that we gays love our technology. We will use any piece of technology we can get our greedy hands on to help us get laid. If one day we are all in the Matrix, you can bet that there will be a separate gay network, and Neo would be in a BDSM bar.<\/p>\n
H:
\nHIV: Get tested regularly and know your facts. Enough said.<\/p>\n
HOUSE MUSIC: As gay as it gets when it comes to club music …<\/p>\n
I:
\nINTERNET HOOK-UPS: What is it that they say, video killed the radio star? Internet has killed dogging in the park. (See also: Grindr)<\/p>\n
J:
\nJOCKSTRAP: At some point in my gay schooling, I must have fallen asleep the day we were told that it\u2019s acceptable to wear a jockstrap as a form of regular underwear. I thought it was meant only for doing sports, but then I guess a jockstrap is just so much more convenient when you need quick access than a pair of CKs.<\/p>\n
K:
\nKIKI: A party for calming all your nerves, spilling tea and dishing just desserts one may deserve. And though the sun is rising, few may choose to leave..<\/p>\n
L:
\nLESBIANS: They\u2019re our sisters but really, we have nothing in common other than the whole \u201cequality\u201d fight. My bet is that it was the lesbians that decided to start fighting for equality in the first place. The gays were just too busy figuring out how to throw a party for it.<\/p>\n
M:
\nMARRIAGE: The topic of marriage lately has been raging harder than an old Republican senator walking past a boy bar. While yours truly doesn\u2019t believe in gay marriages (I can\u2019t commit to a haircut, and you expect me to commit to someone forever?), every gay does has the right to be subjected to a gazillion Facebook posts \/ Pinterest boards about friends getting hitched and all the cheesiness.<\/p>\n
MIZI XIA: \u201cMizi Xia was strolling with the ruler in an orchard and, biting into a peach and finding it sweet, he stopped eating and gave the remaining half to the ruler to enjoy.\u201d If this is confusing, brush up on your gay Chinese history.<\/p>\n
N:
\nNELLY: A very effeminate gay man but this term is often used in a more sexual context. Ex.: \u201cHe\u2019s a total nelly bottom. He\u2019ll sit on anything\u2014chair legs, traffic cones …\u201d<\/p>\n
NO TEA, NO SHADE: It means no disrespect. Add this phrase to the beginning or the end of a sentence that can be negative to somebody, but you\u2019re only stating the obvious. Ex. \u201cGirl, you look like a Chinese poodle with your hair crimped like that. No tea, no shade.\u201d<\/p>\n
O:
\nOUT \/ OUTING \/ OUTED: Announcing your sexuality to the world \/ family \/ friends \/ pet dog. It\u2019s OK if a gay person does it to himself, but outing another person before he\u2019s ready? Never!<\/p>\n
P:
\nPARIS IS BURNING: A must-see documentary that chronicles the gay and transgender community in NYC as well as the \u201cball culture.\u201d If there were such thing as a gay history film, this would be it.<\/p>\n
Q:
\nQUEEN: Used to describe a feminine gay man and his demeanors. Though this term\u2019s intended to be insulting, I wear it with pride. No shame in being not straight-acting. Or as I\u2019d like to put it, I\u2019m a very soft, soft, soft butch.<\/p>\n
R:
\nREAD: To insult or criticize. Ex.: \u201cI will read that b*tch.\u201d<\/p>\n
S:
\nSHANTE, YOU STAY: RuPaul\u2019s catch phrase from the victorious drag queen performance on Lip Sync for Your Life. This show is a must-see. It\u2019s America\u2019s Next Top Model meets Project Runway for drag queens. If it isn\u2019t gay, I don\u2019t know what is.<\/p>\n
STRAIGHT-ACTING: Common on gay profiles: \u201cStraight-acting guy looking for straight-acting masculine guy.\u201d Gays who use this term only scream \u201cself-loathing.\u201d<\/p>\n
T:
\nT \/ TEA: \u201cGurl, what\u2019s the T?\u201d (\u201cWhat\u2019s up?\u201d)<\/p>\n
THROWING SHADES: When you\u2019re dissing someone. \u201cI don\u2019t tell you you\u2019re ugly, but I don\u2019t have to tell you you\u2019re ugly because you know you\u2019re ugly.\u201d<\/p>\n
U:
\nUNDERWEAR: At some point, gay men got duped into believing that buying expensive underwear will make us hotter. WRONG. Being hot makes you hotter.<\/p>\n
V:
\nVOGUING: Way before Madonna popularized it, voguing was a dance characterized by striking a pose. It was popularized by young gay black men in America.<\/p>\n
W:
\nWORK \/ WERQ \/ WERK: A compliment, encouragement. (ex. Gurl, you werk those heels.)<\/p>\n
X:
\nXENA, WARRIOR PRINCESS: Probably the only lesbian-centric TV show I can stomach.<\/p>\n
Y:
\nY.M.C.A.: A classic anthem. Long before millions of homosexuals proudly proclaimed they\u2019re \u201cborn this way\u201d (Lady Gaga), the Village People penned a pulsating disco tune to gyrate to with enough costume inspirations for all gays.<\/p>\n
Z:
\nPAN ZHANG & WANG ZHONGXIAN: From the story to tongzhi \u2026 it only all proves that Chinese gays have been fabulous for a long time. Don\u2019t forget to give Chinese LGBT history a try. It will surprise you.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"